~ Never Say “I Don’t Get Offended” ~

I don’t know how many times I have heard this expression from Christians. Not just from immature Christians, but people I love and respect as being mature in the faith. I feel the need to shed some light on this subject; not as a correction, but to bring solid understanding because it IS a tool the enemy uses to trick us into hurting others and falling into sin.

First off, being offended is NOT a sin, so get rid of that thinking. (I will prove this with scripture in a minute.) This line of thought alone will set you up for deception by the enemy and make it easier for him to trick you into getting into pride and unforgiveness. We all get offended at times; in fact Jesus said that it was impossible for offences NOT to come.

Luke 17:1-3 ~ 1Then He said to the disciples, “It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! 2It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. 3Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.

We get offended when someone sins against us. Being offended hurts. It stirs up emotions of anger, sadness and disappointment. If we let those emotions have control, we will move from being offended into sins of pride and unforgiveness. Offence is the temptation, not the sin. By not understanding the temptation we make it easy for the enemy to trip us up.

If Jesus said it was impossible that offenses NOT come, then He had to have experienced being offended too because the bible says that He was tempted in every point as we are.

Hebrews 4:15 ~ For we have not a high priest which cannot be
touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.

Here is an account in Matthew of Jesus getting offended. That’s right, JESUS GOT OFFENDED. It freaks most people out the first time they hear that, nevertheless, here it is. Notice how Jesus deals with it using a strong rebuke as described in Luke 17:3 above.

Matthew 16:22-24 ~ 22Then Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him, saying, “Far be it from You, Lord; this shall not happen to You!” 23But He turned and said to Peter, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.” 24Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.

The big problems that the church faces are that most of her offences are either imagined or people are getting offended because of their pride. When we start rebuking people for an imagined offence, or because we are full of pride, we cause division and strife in the body, hurting more people and scattering more temptation around. The Devil just loves this.

Offense is the “bait” to get you into sin. It is a neat trick of the enemy to get the prey to scatter his bait around so he can subdue MORE prey. As a hunter I can really appreciate this tactic and its effectiveness.

If someone legitimately sins against you, then the way to deal with it is to rebuke him or her. Let them know that what they did is wrong, that it offends you, and make it clear that is not acceptable behavior.

On the other hand, If what they did hurt you and you feel offended, yet you know they did not sin against you, you need to take heed to yourself. (Luke 17:3) Issues of pride are the common cause in this instance. Be aware enough and mature enough to recognize it and repent. It will save relationships and keep you from being a tool of the enemy.

Don’t let offense be a stumbling block for you. If you do, Satan will use you to scatter his foul bait around the body of Christ to bring division and strife through you and hurt people. I don’t know about you, but I would rather not help the Devil with his agenda.



5 responses to “~ Never Say “I Don’t Get Offended” ~

  1. Hello Jack, my point is that if we are offended in the first place we are not operating in the Spirit.

    Could you give me an example of something that might offend you?

    Brother, Jesus is Lord, HE has a right to be angry. Jesus condemned the pharisees but we are not allowed to do that.

    Maybe I should have used another word for anger. What I mean is, we are not allowed to take revenge or to take action against another. God will repay. That was my point.



    • Hey Mitchell,
      I am sorry brother but we seem to be talking about two different things here. You can be walking TOTALLY in the Spirit and be offended. Being offended is NOT the same as being angry. Being offended can make you angry, grieve you or hurt you emotionally. Being offended can literally be translated as “being sinned against”. Jesus was offended at Peter because Peter sinned against Him. I know that is hard to swallow, it was for me. But Jesus was walking in the Spirit when He was offended and when He got angry. He always walked in the Spirit.

      What you do with the offense or anger or hurt or the “sin against you” can take you out of the Spirit. It doesn’t have to if you deal with it right.
      When you say the Jesus is Lord, HE has a right to be angry, you are implying that we do not.(Ephesians 4:26) And yet we are HIS body. We are IN HIM. You made reference earlier that we should know who we are in Christ and yet you make it a point to seperate us. That does not work bro.
      Be blessed.


      • I just think it is wrong to be offended when no offense is given.

        For instance, if we eat meat in front of a weaker believer then we give them offense and are in the wrong (1 Corinthians 8:12,13). But when Jesus was in his home town the people were offended by His authority and teaching.

        Matthew 13:57 (AMP)
        57And they took offense at Him [they were repelled and hindered from acknowledging His authority, and caused to stumble]. But Jesus said to them, A prophet is not without honor except in his own country and in his own house.

        Now did Jesus CAUSE them to sin? Was He intentionally putting a stumbligblock in their path? Of course not, the bible teaches NOT to cause others to sin. So Jesus would never try to provoke sin.

        Jesus offended the pharisees all the time. But it was them who were in the wrong.

        The Holy Spirit is in us, but that does not mean that everything we say and do is done from Him. Just because Jesus got angry does not mean we can do that too. Jesus will judge the living and the dead, we will not. He is our Lord, if we were equal to Him then that would make us Lord too.

        I said that we should know who we are in Christ because we should. That does not mean we ARE Christ. There is a distinction.

        Remember when the disciples got angry and asked the Lord if they should send fire upon the people? Were they right? No, Jesus rebuked them. Just because we get angry and are with Christ does not mean we are right.

        I think we are in some agreement, I think it just depends on what the definition of offense is. But I think we are wrong if we get upset, angry, annoyed, etc at something or someone.



  2. Hi, I personally do not think we should be offended by anything. Being offended has to do with self. It is not about us so therefore anything meant to be offensive should not matter. Like if I said to you: Hey you are a low life. You should know who you are in Christ and those words should not harm you. INSTEAD, you should be wondering about my spiritual condition as to what caused me to say such a thing.

    I think you confused or just misinterpreted the gospel scriptures you gave. “Offense” in the Luke scripture is referring to temptation. In the Matthew scripture Jesus was telling Peter that he was an “offense” because Peter was working against Him. Jesus was offended, He was simply rebuking Peter for putting his own interests ahead of God’s.

    I believe that if we are offended by anything, it is because of selfishness and or pride.

    When we are offended we react with anger, hurt, sadness, rage, etc. None of those are connected to the Spirit. Vengeance belongs to the Lord and we have no right to be angry at anyone. We are to turn the other cheek. We should be dead to self and therefore dead to offenses.

    Blessings to you and yours.


    • Hi Mitchell,
      Thank you for reading and responding to the post.
      Being offended is something everyone has to deal with, and your opinion that we should not be offended by anything is a common belief and a trick of the enemy as I made reference to in the post. That is the reason for my study on offense and this short teaching. The fact of the matter is, yours or my opinion is meaningless unless it based on the truth of God’s word. I have done my best to do that. I ask no one to take my word for it, the scriptures are clear if you take time to study them.

      Being selfish or prideful has nothing to do with being offended. You are right about offense being the temptation. It is ALWAYS the temptation. It is the trigger on the trap that gets you to follow that temptation into sin. When we are offended we have the OPTION to “react with anger, hurt, sadness, rage, etc.” as you said but being offended is NOT the sin, it is what you do with offense that determines if you sin or not.

      Having “no right to be angry”? Not true. Jesus got angry and drove the money changers out of the temple. Did he sin? NO. The bible says to be angry and sin not.
      Ephesians 4:26 ~ “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
      Also, being dead to self does not automatically make you dead to offenses. As far as misinterpreting or confusing the scriptures in Luke or Matthew, I have looked at them in the original text to see if I was correct. But just reading them in the context they were written in will prove it out. The scripture is clear.
      Thanks again for the comment,
      God bless you,